Where we stand with this whole happiness issue….
The quest for happiness is one of those human cliches, like the search for love or fame. If you Google “quotes on happiness” there are nearly 40 million search results, all with some sense of truth from lives past and present. So if we have been searching for happiness for so long why are we all never quite content, happy, have that sense of “I have everything that I ever wanted”? I guess it’s because deep down we all have this idea of what would make us happy, and ironically enough, we never seem to have those things, whether its stacks of cash, many admirers, perhaps a perfect spouse, children, a smaller nose, thinner legs (I think the list might be too long so I will leave the rest up to your imagination). Why is it that we always want the things that we do not have, and fail to appreciate the things that we do have?
I cannot speak for the many, many generations before me, but I think one of the main problems of society in this day and age is that we are so obsessed with what other people have that we lose our own sense of self. People have plastic surgery done to get that perfect selfie ( like the ones that they see on Instagram), we take out loans or build up a mountain of debt (and tears) to own the stylish clothes that are in the latest issue of Vogue, we want faster cars, better tech, and bigger muscles (to pick up what exactly?). Nobody wants what they have. There is always something better. Look I’m not saying that you should not strive to do better, that’s great! By all means, work hard to get the job you want and the income that you need to realize all your dreams, but don’t lose yourself in the process.
Stats show that there is a higher level of depression in teenagers lately, mostly because of social media. If I think about how rough my teen years were, and Facebook was not that important back then, I cannot imagine the amount of peer pressure that today’s youngsters are feeling and I’m not surprised that it’s getting them down. When you’re that age you are a hot mess (and not in a sexy way). You never feel like you fit in, nobody understands you and you continuously seek approval from your peers (not from your parents). It honestly sounds like a nightmare to me, and the worst part of it all is that this pressure to live up to certain standards now does not go away! Everywhere we look there are ads telling us what we should have and who we should be.
Take a deep breath…
Our lives have become overstimulated. Whether you’re young or old, I think that we all need to take a deep breath and step back to inspect our lives and ourselves for a moment. Leave your phone, put off the tv and look away from your PC screen (after reading this of course!). We need to get back in touch with who we really are deep inside and block out all the noise around us.
Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude-Denis Waitley